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Apr. 18th, 2007 @ 07:28 am Rant #17
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From:minds_opaque
Date:April 19th, 2007 04:03 pm (UTC)
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Wow, I thought no one else thought this. :) I have to agree, Linda didn't do Paul's solo career any favors, and she could have had a great career of her own.

Why in the world did she have to be in Paul's band? a) because Paul needed a replacement for John and b) because she didn't want to say no.

The issue for me is why she agreed to do it. She got nothing but insults for her lack of talent and I don't get the sense she really liked it very much. Maybe she wasn't stubborn enough to want a drawn-out battle of wills over it. Or maybe as annoying as it was she went with it because she loved Paul and knew that's what he needed.

I'm not sure how to think of Linda. I'm not saying she's a doormat, but sometimes I get the sense she didn't say "this is a bad idea" or "I'm not doing this" when she should have. On the other hand they clearly had a happy marriage, so...maybe it wasn't such a big deal to her. I don't know.

(If it were me and I had Linda's level of talent, I would have said, I'm sorry, I'm not doing it. But then again if it were me I'd actually learn how to sing and play guitar decently, so nevermind!)
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From:abromeds
Date:April 19th, 2007 07:44 pm (UTC)
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Or maybe as annoying as it was she went with it because she loved Paul and knew that's what he needed.

I think that was the overwhelming factor. Linda was always very protective of Paul, and it's no wonder. She loved the guy, obviously, but she was also THERE with him, ALONE, when he went through the worst period of his life -- when he drank himself stupid in bed for days on end and stopped bathing and had to remind himself to breathe sometimes and would wake up in the middle of the night, shaking, unable to speak. Mmmmkay? She SAW that. And much more, I'm sure, we've only got part of the story, obviously. So anyway, I can completely understand Linda wanting to facilitate Paul and be as supportive as she possibly could after that, even if she had to make sacrifices to do so.

As to being a doormat, I'm not sure if you're talking about Paul's career choices or just in general, but if the latter, I've never gotten the impression Linda was like that. She was the black sheep of her family, rejected all their New York rich socialite crap, dropped out of school, married a guy and then divorced him, and travelled around taking pictures of rock stars, many of whom she shagged. She was a bit of a wild child, actually. It's only since her illness and death that her gentle, nurturing side has been emphasized; plenty of people testify to her being, ah, "sassy." ;P There's an interview somewhere on YouTube where she gets all bitchy about the crap people give her for not shaving her legs or wearing makeup/bras, etc. I believe she uses the phrase, "Give me a fucking break!" It is awesome.

With regard to Paul, she said nice things about him in interviews, obviously, but was also quite blunt in some ways; she talked about his "need" to be liked and to perform, about how their marriage was very real, they argued, etc., she even said a couple times things like, "Well, it's lasted so far, we'll see if it keeps going." When Paul went to visit Linda in New York in the 60s, her response was, "Great! You can babysit while I go to work" (she was living in a tiny little apartment at the time, supporting herself with some sort of office job). So Paul hung out with little Heather for a week or whatever, and loved it, of course; he later said it was things like that which attracted him to her in the first place.

I'm not quite sure what the point of this ramble was, actually; I think it was just to counteract the impression I'm getting that a lot of people view Linda as a quiet little subservient-type shadow-wife, and that was just not the case. No doubt she catered to Paul's decisions in the studio and on stage, but, well, duh. Their private life was, apparently, very different.
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From:padawansguide
Date:April 20th, 2007 02:18 pm (UTC)
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Very interesting!